Do you feel responsible for how other people feel? Do you apologize too much? Do you find yourself saying yes when you mean no? There is nothing wrong with being nice. People pleasing is a normal human tendency. We want to be likable and get along with others. However, when we try to please people too much, we can lose our own power. Today, we’re going to discuss the signs of people pleasing and actionable tools to help us set boundaries and reclaim our power. Let’s dive in.
Let’s look at some reasons why we tend to give our power away and why it can be hard to set boundaries.
-We may fear conflict.
-We fear being rejected.
-Saying yes and giving other people our power, is a learned behavior for some people.
Let’s look at some steps we can take to set boundaries and reclaim our power. I encourage you to jot down some notes as I discuss these actionable tools. Reframe your language
1. Be mindful and think before you react
2. Evaluate feedback and criticism
3. Recognize that you have choices.
You are just as important as other people. Please check in with your physical and emotional capacity. This will give you the strength to practice self-care or offer help to others. Again, it’s about taking your time and space before you respond. I hope you find this time helpful. Take good care of yourself and do your healing every day.
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